(a copy of my e-mail to Bush regarding his Marriage Protection Week
Dear Mr. President,
I am a great supporter of healthy, happy children, and cohesive families. I do not, however, believe that civil marriage should be held to the same constraints (one man, one woman) that your faith holds. Our household is atypical, but no less loving and healthy for all that. Family, and love, in whatever form, not marriage, should be what you, and this country fights for.
A family should not be encouraged to keep a disruptive, abusive member who refuses to participate in the upkeep of the household, or contribute to the family's well-being clutched close to their bosom. A family should be encouraged to hold those they love close, and keep them always, even if that love, and that family, does not fit a traditional model.
I ask you, sir: should a young woman have to work four jobs to support the husband who is physically capable of work, but will not seek a job? Should that young woman stay with him when he does not watch their infant son? When he refuses to so much as pick up after himself? Should she stay where she is not respected, not supported, because of a dying marriage? Should a woman be pressured to marry the irresponsible, faithless father of her child in order to form a traditional family, in favor of creating a non-traditional household with someone loved and responsible, who will put forth equal effort to raising and teaching the child?
Our founding fathers came to this country so that they could practice their faith in their own way, unfettered by the laws of old Europe. Please, sir, make it as clear as you wish that traditional marriage is what works for you and many others, but do not penalize those of us who have found that a non-traditional family structure is what works best for us.
Instead, defend the rights of the children. Defend the right of children to have a roof over their heads. Defend the right of children to eat wholesome food and drink fresh water. Defend the right of children to have clean air in their lungs. Defend the right of children to attend safe and well-funded public schools. Defend the right of children to have affordable, timely, quality medical care. Above all, Defend the right of children to have the presence of the ones they love, and the ones who love them, whether their parents are married or unmarried, whether they are being raised by parents or other relatives or are adopted, no matter what race, orientation, or creed, and the right of children to be free of the presence of those who would do them harm.
Reverend Joan Laurel etc.;
PO Box ---
Fairbanks, AK 99708