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"I don't like children" and rudeness

It occurred to me that many if not most of the problems with children that people who don't like children have can be covered by "I don't like rude people" as well as it can be by "I don't like children".

Granted, there are some uniquely annoying childish things, such as having a screaming meltdown in a public place at the expense of the ears of parent/guardian/onlookers, that "rude people" doesn't include. That's a part of having kids that no one enjoys. Some have learned to deal with it better than others -- I ran into a lady on the bus who was smacking her children for every little thing. Not the kid who was having the meltdown, granted, but ... ugh. Any parent/guardian who can emerge from a kid meltdown in public scenario without yelling at the kid louder than the kid or making with the spanking, I count as a saint, and possibly beyond human. (Or, maybe, with the patience of a saint, or with nothing they can really do besides shut up to make the situation better...)

But I digress.

Children talking loudly and repetitively about something far too close to you? Allow me to introduce you to the former co-worker of a friend, "TMI Woman", who goes on and on about personal issues, much too loud, on the phone with assorted friends, on company time. Kids babbling at the tops of their lungs? Could turn it down. TMI Woman? Could turn it down.

Someone complained about children on a train watching movies on one of those small DVD players. No headphones. I ran into a man on the bus doing the same thing. It's just as annoying when an adult does it.

I'm sure there are other things that those who are disposed to think of children with annoyance think of as typical child behaviours, reinforcing their poor opinion of children, that are also annoying and rude when adults do it. Anyone care to fill in some that I've missed?

There are some things that kids just do when letting their hair down and being kids. Kids playing together outside, or at home, are bound to be noisy. Excited small children shriek. Kids think it's hilarious to repeat the same thing over and over and over. (Some adults do too. It can be trained out of kids, witness the Little Fayoumis. Adults... agggggh.)

I know I'm probably missing some things, because I'm OK with kids for the most part. I'm OK with kids who have someone responsible for them with them who is keeping them within the bounds of situational politeness. I'm OK with kids who are on their own and behaving themselves. I am OK with being responsible for keeping kids within the bounds of situational politeness. I am sympathetic to the plight of responsible parties who have a kid who has progressed past the bounds of situational politeness due to circumstances beyond anyone's immediate control. I am not OK with kids who are not being kept within the bounds of situational politeness due to the inattention, apathy, laissez-faire attitude, or absence of responsible parties. I am nervous around babies because I have a thing about meaningful interaction with another person being based on the ability to converse.

So. Um. Thoughts?
Gone away, gone ahead,
Echoes roll unanswered.
Empty, open, dusty, dead.
Why have all the Weyrfolk fled?

Where have dragons gone together
Leaving weyrs to wind and weather,
Setting herdbeasts free of tether;
Gone, our safeguards, gone, but whither?

Have they flown to some new weyr
Where cruel Threads some others fear?
Are they worlds away from here?
Why, oh why the empty weyr?

-- "The Question Song", Anne McCaffrey
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