Turns out my silly blonder half thought that there would be People here, and he wasn't up for that. Also, the timing was screwed, and there was a miscommunication on timing. So he's not avoiding me. He's avoiding People, and (again) he's only used to seeing his friends 1 or 2 times a year. I pointed out when it was last that I'd seen him. I'm pushing for 3 or 4. It's all good.