Marshal my arguments at my bondmate about appropriateness vs. the other potential mates out there, regarding your opinion that you're not suited to me at all.
Clean altar & see if there's any junk to ditch.
Burn CD for above-mentioned bondmate with random tracks I think he'll like. Happiness is a good mix CD, and/or a good portion of one's assymetrical bondmate's music collection. Test the burn. Call said bondmate's mother and figure out a good time to try and drop by.