In not entirely unrelated news, my leadership style is, has been, and likely always will be extremely laid-back. "General organizing principle" is how I've been describing myself, because I don't really lead. I let the group run itself for the most part. If needed, I'm the local Responsible Adult, and I man the beepy-thing, but otherwise the group does its thing. I've never had the energy to teach the group. I knew that coming in, and it was one of the reasons why I resisted taking the position. I guess I always figured that if the group wanted more structure, then the group would make it happen. Now the group's making it happen, and the only thing that confuses me is why it didn't happen sooner, since people clearly do want it this strongly.
The rest of it all is just the sort of midnight things that get said to Darkside or in private IRC, or not at all. I'm feeling this incredible disconnect from it all, as I have since the 2nd.
hcolleen is now in charge of cracking the whip. I'm fine with carrying on as Vague Organizing Principle. myrrhianna has volunteered to keep track of people, contact info, principles, and manifestos.
Some potential new names came up. There will be discussion, more brainstorming, and eventually some voting or somethin'.
M is going through some tough times right now, and the group as gathered tonight has discussed how best to present (in friendship and solidarity) the True Life Lessons that may help M get back on her feet and having positive energy experiences once more. (Points for decrypting that one into the language that was actually used.) Suffice to say that if you don't choose to work full-time, but are physically and mentally capable of doing so, it's hard to gain sympathy if you are upset at your plight of always living in a room with housemates and not having a car. (We can tell the difference between complaining and venting rather fast. We grok the venting, but the complaining we're rather more likely to help you make an action plan than sympathize with.) Likewise, consider having realistic expectations of housemates. In the grand tradition of artists since forever, consider taking that day job at least part-time so you'll have some income rather than none. Et cetera. One would think that by 40, one has gained at least an elementary understanding of how the world works.