I think that marriage is more than a "want" when access to medical services and other partner benefits are at stake.
I think that access to marriage that requires going out of state to get married is no meaningful access.
You are not a California voter, so I do not hold you accountable for any part of the California vote. You are an adult male in your church. I am not your wife so I have no rightful say over what you have to say to your church, but in a country that separates church and state I think your church has no right interfering with affairs of state to attempt to disenfranchise any citizen, and were I your wife that is what I would tell you to tell them.
I count three exceptionally low blows in this commentary. How many can you count? (Note: this is Figment I was talking to.)